A few moments of pain, a lifetime of loss yet not that sore…..

A few moments of pain, a lifetime of loss yet not that sore…..

The title sums it all, for I have no better words to explain the loss a person incurs when a loved soul, someone near and dear, leaves…

The circle of life necessitates every soul present on this planet to leave one day, which is masked as death. Death surely brings pain, not for the departed soul, but for all those who are left behind. Death is something which is the most natural phenomenon but at the same time most hard to accept.

What really is death for? And if death is the real truth, then why this illusion called life?

It is foolish to talk about death without experiencing the same, but one can talk about life and the pain associated with the death of loved ones. The experience of someone going far off and the pain of never being able to talk, take advice, joke or hang out with the person makes it hard to accept. A person lives on the planet for years, nurtures relations and value people in his/her life only to move away from planet all alone. Why then this illusion is strong that it makes us forget our own self?

I have tried to think about the question since long, but all I comprehend from my knowledge is that the world was not meant to make relationships. In fact, there is no logical reason to create this planet.

Let us assume that there is no such thing as spiritual journey or the concept of ‘mukti’ as it is said. Humans are a result of billions of years of evolution and humans came as a life form to this planet as a result of natural progression of species. Humans seem to have evolved from chimpanzees or monkeys or whatever. And it is seen that those species also show deep attachment with their fellow ones. This means that the attachment part in human DNA has also been transferred to other species. But at the same time, we see some savage beasts which are present in the ecosystem just as a symbol of death.

I am not an expert on evolution or animal behavior but I believe that not every species present on the planet own this thing called emotions, and it is said that the more evolved a species is, the more advanced mechanism it has for emotions. Emotions thus are an integral part of evolution infused in the cycle at some phase or the other. These emotions result in feelings being generated in a living creature, feelings of love, feeling of attachment, feeling of greed, feeling of being important and other innumerable ones.

 As evolution happened and life forms evolved into complex species it is inherently understood that the newer life form is the most advanced and most strong. But emotions and feelings at one end has given the ability to understand other beings, but at the same time made humans a vulnerable life form, too.

The feelings and emotions aroused in a person sometimes do not let him/her take decisions rationally which is an important element of moving forward. Feelings tend to hold a person back. And coming back to the point, it is emotions and feelings that a person has, that make a person miss a departed soul.

I do not say that one should not feel attached to the near and dear ones, but at once, put a hand on your heart, and ask, how often you have felt cheated and hurt because of a person you feel or felt attached to? I know most of the people would have a number that is much more than zero.

This means that emotions are tools of making a person feel pathetic more than a tool for self-improvement and progress.

There are some things in life you cannot control. Death of a loved one is one such incident, but at the same time, there are some things one need to learn and control. One such thing is the reaction after a loved one’s death.

If we read the mythological sources, we will come to know that the cycle of life continues till the point after which the soul is left with nothing to learn in this illusionary world and end up being merged with the greatest one, and attain ‘mukti’. This means that in each of our soul’s birth as a body, we ought to learn a thing or other and once we have learnt everything that is needed; we shift ourselves to other form. This means that the cycle is a progressive one, and death being a level that we have crossed.

When someone dies, a person attains a greater level than he/she was currently own, and death is a stage crossed. A wise person would be one, who would mourn but not be lost on finding that his/her loved one has departed. This is just because one should understand the progress a person has done to reach the next level.

  I know that this post/write up is a mélange of many mismanaged thoughts and unanswered questions pertaining to the concept of life, death and pain. But I can’t portray my thoughts in a better way because I am still confused at the point of taking birth on this planet and then depart. Yeah, I have read  ‘The Bhagwat’ and other religious texts but still this question lingers me again and again that if god wanted us to come back to him, then why at the first instance he made us part with his own self. I know our illusionary mindsets would not be able to answer such questions and I know I would not be able to comprehend anything on this topic, but still would want someone to discuss this topic in a better and arranged way, for others to think and come up with much better undertsanding