Throughout our lives, we run past many people. Some are
good, some bad; some take our heart away, and some etch indelible marks on our
soul. Some help us through this material journey, some become obstacles. But
everyone out there surely come across such people in their lives who have no
particular aim for the future. The person appears as if he has no work to do on
his own self. He/she always irritates us, makes our life hell, and appears as
if deriving pleasure from our troubled state. We feel as if the person had just
taken birth on this planet to make others regret their births. The pains a
sadist gives to others is nothing more than the punishments given in hell. He
makes us regret every decision we take. He/she may be anyone in your life. An
unsatisfied boss, a clingy distant family member, a person we used to recognize
as a friend, a revengeful enemy or just another stranger who seems to make life
hard for you.
Who is a sadist?
A sadist it seems
have cruel intentions but do sadistic attitude emerges from birth or the
influence of some events. Some event that might have shattered them to the
core. Any event any misdeed or any misfortune that they had never planned in
their lives but have turned the course of their lives. Often this turns them disappointed
and helpless and turns them negative towards their own life. Turning negative,
they turn to be revengeful to the world at large. Avenge is the cause of
unhappiness, dissatisfaction and shrewdness. They wish to burn the world in the
flare of their burning life. The clarity in their minds vanishes. They begin to
hate the word called happiness. Their minds turn indifferent to morality. What is
right what is wrong is not into their lives. They then think only because their
lives have been turned pathetic by this cruel world; no one has the right to be
happy. Happiness they begin to believe is an unforbidden territory for anyone
in their lives.
Avoiding sadistic attitude and turning happy and calm in life
To lead a life away from the pains of being a sadist or
getting in touch of a sadist, one needs to adopt some basic traits in his life
that help him sail away from hard waters. First of all, determine your
priorities, about work, about people about life. What you actually want? How you
wish to lead your life in the future. Once clarity crosses your mind, no one
has the power to shake your faith. Be faithful and confident about the life you
have planned. Faith is the pillar of your strength.
One must ensure that he must be self motivated about his own
strengths, but this does not mean to be overconfident, neither it means that he
turns self centered. But one must ensure that he has to prioritize his own
living over others. Selfishness is another name for foolishness, but self-care
and safety are the personality trait of a wise man. Charity begins at home. If one
does not think of his own self, he could never think about other's happiness. This
makes him prey to undue pressure from outside forces beyond his control. He wishes
to get away from the harsh treatments, but he finds himself stuck in the cobweb
of responsibilities that he develops not because of his duties but because he
gets attached to a person, thing or work to a level that he starts ignoring his
own self. This gives a chance to a natural sadist to exploit the person’s
abilities and caliber that not only exhausts him to the core, but also turn him
into being a sadist himself. This vicious circle of not letting others happy do
not end till a point of self realization by any one from a chain. Self realization
occurs from a calm mind. A calm mind is the result of self enlightenment. Self enlightenment
turns from meditation. Once a person starts believing in himself, no power can
shake happiness and calmness of heart.
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