The Natural Sadist

Throughout our lives, we run past many people. Some are good, some bad; some take our heart away, and some etch indelible marks on our soul. Some help us through this material journey, some become obstacles. But everyone out there surely come across such people in their lives who have no particular aim for the future. The person appears as if he has no work to do on his own self. He/she always irritates us, makes our life hell, and appears as if deriving pleasure from our troubled state. We feel as if the person had just taken birth on this planet to make others regret their births. The pains a sadist gives to others is nothing more than the punishments given in hell. He makes us regret every decision we take. He/she may be anyone in your life. An unsatisfied boss, a clingy distant family member, a person we used to recognize as a friend, a revengeful enemy or just another stranger who seems to make life hard for you.

Who is a sadist?

 A sadist it seems have cruel intentions but do sadistic attitude emerges from birth or the influence of some events. Some event that might have shattered them to the core. Any event any misdeed or any misfortune that they had never planned in their lives but have turned the course of their lives. Often this turns them disappointed and helpless and turns them negative towards their own life. Turning negative, they turn to be revengeful to the world at large. Avenge is the cause of unhappiness, dissatisfaction and shrewdness. They wish to burn the world in the flare of their burning life. The clarity in their minds vanishes. They begin to hate the word called happiness. Their minds turn indifferent to morality. What is right what is wrong is not into their lives. They then think only because their lives have been turned pathetic by this cruel world; no one has the right to be happy. Happiness they begin to believe is an unforbidden territory for anyone in their lives.

Avoiding sadistic attitude and turning happy and calm in life

To lead a life away from the pains of being a sadist or getting in touch of a sadist, one needs to adopt some basic traits in his life that help him sail away from hard waters. First of all, determine your priorities, about work, about people about life. What you actually want? How you wish to lead your life in the future. Once clarity crosses your mind, no one has the power to shake your faith. Be faithful and confident about the life you have planned. Faith is the pillar of your strength.

One must ensure that he must be self motivated about his own strengths, but this does not mean to be overconfident, neither it means that he turns self centered. But one must ensure that he has to prioritize his own living over others. Selfishness is another name for foolishness, but self-care and safety are the personality trait of a wise man. Charity begins at home. If one does not think of his own self, he could never think about other's happiness. This makes him prey to undue pressure from outside forces beyond his control. He wishes to get away from the harsh treatments, but he finds himself stuck in the cobweb of responsibilities that he develops not because of his duties but because he gets attached to a person, thing or work to a level that he starts ignoring his own self. This gives a chance to a natural sadist to exploit the person’s abilities and caliber that not only exhausts him to the core, but also turn him into being a sadist himself. This vicious circle of not letting others happy do not end till a point of self realization by any one from a chain. Self realization occurs from a calm mind. A calm mind is the result of self enlightenment. Self enlightenment turns from meditation. Once a person starts believing in himself, no power can shake happiness and calmness of heart.