The power of self domination

Life gives us a lot to learn. Sometimes from our, sometimes from the mistakes of others. Life is like a roller coaster. The experiences are valleys that make us scream in uncertainty but once we manage to go past them, we are bound to rise to the top. In life, we are influenced by a number of persons, close or far, who have a direct or indirect impact on our personality. Our experiences are nothing but the results of these influences. Once, we give the power of influencing our soul to another person, either we are presented with a gift or a lesson in the end.
Everyone out their tries to build healthy relationships with fellow humans in the form of friendship, love, blood relationships or acquaintances. These people slowly and gradually start to have a deep impact by their behavior, care, love, attention and affection. We feel that we can never survive without a particular person. In short, his/her memories and his/her company start meaning a lot more than our own self’s. We start to genuinely admire the other person and seek his/her attention all the time. It seems life is just revolving around a single soul, and we often fall deep for them. In this journey towards attachment, we often give the other persons, the right to dominate our soul.
He/She then starts dominating our lives, our decisions and our happiness. The kind of dressing, the people we would interact with, the way we should talk, the way we should behave and even the course of our life in the future. The person starts to behave like he is our master, and we are slaves. He even tries to dominate if we would choose a particular course or university on his will. In short, he imposes himself over our life.
But do you feel that anyone should give the other person such a right over his soul that he begins to feel low about his own decisions? I don’t think. But some would name this madness as sacrifices in love. But one should know; love is a pristine feeling away from preconceptions and assumptions and the one who truly loves you would trust you for who you are and never try to impose his/her will upon you. No one who truly loves can make you feel low about your own personality.
If you feel the need of some control over your own soul, then develop the trait of self domination. Instead of giving power to others to decide about your life, give your own personality enough strength and experience to guide you through thick and thin. Self domination makes a person stronger from inside and resistant to outside forces who try to benefit from the weakness of a person. Understand your inner self and stay strong from within, and the world will be at your feet. Never give others much more importance than they deserve and never make your importance less than you want.