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When it’s not your fault….


As I walked in my office today, I realized I had forgotten something very important. The task which I forgot did not solely was attached to my responsibilities, neither I was answerable about it to anyone. But I felt that I should do that task. It was to plan a secret surprise for my distant friend, who is not in touch with me since the last one year. The following week is his birthday, and I really want to surprise him by my gesture. But as I came over my work desk, I saw the number of unread e-mails, each one of which signified some or the other official duty which I needed to perform. Hence started my day of endless work like the other days. In the cobweb of these duties, somehow I forget about the thought of giving surprise to that old friend. Days passed and the day of his birthday also passed without me realizing that it was his birthday. One more year passed without wishing the friend which meant the world to me at one point of life. What I was left with, was a guilt in my heart for not doing anything for the one who still means the world to me, but without much concern to show the feeling.

At times in life, there comes a point when we want to do something for that special one in our lives, but due to our preoccupations with work, job or responsibilities, we fail to show our part of love, even if we wish to. At that point, the other one might feel that they have lost their importance in our lives, but this is not the truth always. Sometimes, it might be possible that the person might be caught in a situation where even if he/she wants to, is unable to show and contact that he misses you. It happens all the time that we begin to judge a person because he/she did not contact us or call us when everything seems smooth from our end. What might seem to be a silent ocean from the beach, can be a group of turbulent tides in deep waters. The point is, never judge a person from only your point of view, be prudent enough to understand that he/she might also have some unsolved mysteries in his/her own life.

Because of this situation only, many relations break, a person who is unable to give his part to a relations because of his responsibilities towards his job, employer, society feel that it is solely his fault that things did not work out between the two, but what I want to say is, sometimes, it is just not your fault. It is the fault in the time, which do not adjusts itself as per our whims and fantasies.

Stop Feeling sad because you did not do much for your loved ones, give a fresh start to the relations which mean the world to you…

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